Why am I not satisfied with my birthday present?

Here goes. My boyfriend and I are going through a rough time right now. My birthday is tomorrow and he already gave me flowers (which i am happy with) but then I found a $100 gift card to Old Navy when i was doing his laundry. He know I HATE gift cards because I don%26#039;t think they are thoughtful. He asked me what I wanted (usually I don%26#039;t care) and I told him I wanted us to do something as a family (with our 7 month old son), I wanted a memory. Anyhow, I will be pissed if that is what he got me. This might be the straw that broke the camels back. we have been having a hard time with his depression for the last year and i%26#039;m at my witts end. What would you do? I told him what I wanted.

Why am I not satisfied with my birthday present?
don%26#039;t give up on him yet... see what he comes up with tomorrow. Even if he doesn%26#039;t give you the memory... don%26#039;t give up yet. You have a family and it sounds like he has emotional problems. Try counseling.





Good luck and God Bless. Oh... and Happy Birthday!
Reply:Hun, you are putting the cart before the horse. Your birthday hasn%26#039;t even happened yet and you are already pissed off at him and assuming things. He is trying and to be honest, it is the thought that counts. Maybe the memory will be taking you shopping and then the 3 of you doing something together after like a picnic in the park?
Reply:Don%26#039;t go off of him, firstly, because at least he tried, and you mentioned he had depression so he may have recently gotten it because he was so stressed out. Just act like you like it if it happens to be your present and make sure he gives you a gift receipt or something and go and return it when your out doing errands. Good luck.
Reply:it sounds like he%26#039;s trying his best, you can%26#039;t get down on him for at least trying. If he%26#039;s have problems with depression he should probably try to work on those issues so thing between the two of you would be better. Don%26#039;t rag on him i did it to my husband when i didnt like a gift he gave me, big mistake. They%26#039;re men they try their best
Reply:I would be depressed too if I put my hard earned money into a gift for my spouse and whatever I chose wasn%26#039;t good enough. Did it ever occur to you that he thinks highly of you and woud like you to look the way he thinks of you? Therefore, instead of buying you something that would probably not fit he bought you a gift card so you could choose whatever you like. I would love a gift card.
Reply:You%26#039;re not satisfied because you are acting spoiled and bratty. Get over it, be glad he got you anything at all. Anyhow with the depression things going on with him, at least he thought of you --thought its not the perfect little gift you desired. Accept it, say thank you and ENJOY it...Don%26#039;t be greedy.
Reply:damn i would hate to be your boyfriend you seem to be a very unpleasent woman, if i were you i would take the card and make him go with you to buy something as a family, then hope he doesnt leave your *** on the curb when you tell him how much you hate that he gave you a gift card
Reply:why don%26#039;t you wait and see what else he may have planned for you, shopping at Old Navy then a day/night out for all someplace fun but wanted you to look your best before going, hence the gift card.
Reply:UM, did you ever think that gift card may not be for you? Maybe it%26#039;s for his Mom for Mother%26#039;s Day.


Grow up and stop being so selfish!
Reply:As usual, women are hard to please. Be thankful he%26#039;s getting you anything woman !
Reply:Dont be selfish, you lucky he got you something.
Reply:You%26#039;ll be more pissed if it%26#039;s for his wife.





LMAO.
Reply:get over yourself...at least he thought enough to get you something





you are ungrateful
Reply:A gift card is %26quot;the straw that broke the camel%26#039;s back%26quot;?





[1] Woman, you are BEGGING for an excuse to end this relationship





[2] You are a control freak. You NEVER tell people what gifts to get you. B*tch.





[3] If I got you a gift -- and in my depression forgot one of your f*cking precious RULES about gifts Her Majesty will or will not accept -- and you were %26quot;pissed%26quot; about it, I%26#039;d [a] never get you a gift again, and [b] tell you to light this one on fire, turn it sideways, and shove it up your self-centered a$s.
Reply:There are just SO many ways that this is just wrong. Lets see, one, you snooped and pre judged what he was going to do, two you also pre judged that this is ALL that he was going to do, and three, you pre judged the item above the emotional intent of it.


You are a very selfish person. Its not all about you. You don%26#039;t get that most men not only hate having to shop for women, but are simply bad at it, especially when it comes to clothing. He%26#039;d rather than you have the card with which to pick out what *you* most like there, rather than him bringing home some item that you will almost certainly return, if its even in your correct size. You don%26#039;t get that men%26#039;s clothing sizing systems are very different from those used for women%26#039;s clothes, and that the men%26#039;s systems are far easier to figure out. Think about if you had to buy his The Right Gift at Best Buy, you%26#039;d likely do no better. But, he wouldn%26#039;t judge you for your failure in a guy%26#039;s store...


You sound very much like a person who will make herself unhappy, just so that she can be Always Right. Well, us wiser folks have a name for people like that: Divorced.


Oh, and how nice that HE has clinical depression, but YOU still are owed The Right Gift. How... compassionate of HIS problems you are. Not !
Reply:Oh my god. Grow up. You are going to let a birthday present %26quot;break the camels back%26quot;??? Gifts are optional by the way, so be happy he got you one...that you haven%26#039;t even received yet.





I wouldn%26#039;t get you one, you sound quite dreadful.





EDIT: If you want one day about you, you are probably going to have to plan it. If he%26#039;s as depressed as you say he is, you can%26#039;t possibly expect him to be able to make you happy...he can%26#039;t even make himself happy. You have to make yourself happy. Been there...depression sucks.
Reply:if your boyfriend is depressed, i mean in a real depression, i think you you%26#039;ve got bigger worries than the fact that your just getting a gift card. Ya know, sometimes its real hard on a guy when there is a new baby. hes used to getting all your attention and now he is sharing you with the baby.this can get out of control if you let it. sounds like you need to talk about alot of things. and if his depression has really upset the whole scheme of things then maybe he needs help. helping him with that might end up being the best birthday gift you could ever recieve. good luck and happy b-day!



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