My husband "forgot" my birthday again?

Last Tuesday was my 30th birthday. My husband usually forgets, so I reminded him a month ago, and then a week before my brithday.


Tuesday morning he had been up for half an hour, so i said, %26quot;aren%26#039;t you going to wish me a happy birthday?%26quot;


he said that I should have reminded him, even though I did. He went to work, and was not home until after 8pm.


He had no card, no presents, no flowers. I always make a big deal out of birthdays for him and our children. I make cakes from scratch, invite family for dinner and buy a persent ahead of time. It really hurts me that on my brithday, I did not get anything. I am not a material person, I just wanted him to show me he cares.


On Friday night I told him how upset I was, and he just blew me off. I was crying because my feelings were so hurt. I figured that maybe he might plan something for the weekend, but now it is Sunday and he has done nothing.


How do I get over this? I feel so alone.

My husband %26quot;forgot%26quot; my birthday again?
I would tell him everything what you wrote here strait to his face. How old is he? 85-90? Or his head made from wood???


Yes, many people do not care about birth days, but this is different, he doesn%26#039;t care about you or your feelings. After so many remindings he didn%26#039;t bother to move a finger.


Also, if you won%26#039;t tell him that you are upset, doesn%26#039;t he has eyes to see it himself? Does he see you at all?


What a lazy mind and spirit!!!


I wouldn%26#039;t wait for his birthday to get some immature revenge, this is your life, your marriage not some kind of game. Till its not too late(?) talk to him, knock to his heart, explain what is going on in your heart. I would openly search for love and talk with him about everything.


There are 2 people in the marriage not just one. You can%26#039;t do it for both of you, even you%26#039;ll try hard
Reply:Your husband sounds like insensitive ****** and I%26#039;m being nice just calling him that. Karma%26#039;s a *****. So stop doing the nice things you do for him and if he doesn%26#039;t like it tell him to f-off.
Reply:If he needs to be reminded, then maybe you shouldn%26#039;t make such a big deal out of his birthday. Why go through all the trouble for someone who can%26#039;t remember your big day and probably doesn%26#039;t appreciate what you do for his?
Reply:Happy Birthday!!! I%26#039;m sorry your husband is so insensitive. I had a boyfriend like that and it turned out pretty bad. Not only was he insensitive, he was cheating, and ripped me off financially. It%26#039;s the narcisstic personality; that means vain, self-absorbed, conceited, selfish, etc... Good luck on whatever you decide to do but remember this, is this the kind of man you would want your daughter to be involved with? If not, you shouldn%26#039;t be involved with him either.
Reply:treat his birthday the same as he does yours....like it%26#039;s nothing! in fact, i%26#039;d let him spend the whole day by himself. i%26#039;d go pamper myself at the spa, hairdressers, or nail salon...then i%26#039;d show him what a good job that they did.
Reply:Remember this on his birthday and return the favor.
Reply:Well you don%26#039;t, you get him things but he gets you nothing and even forget? Well maybe you should talk to him tell him how big of a deal it is for you. Or just 1 time forget his birthday! This will for sure make him think twice for what has done!
Reply:does he do things for you on other holidays? valentines day mothers day anniversary etc? Did he do things for you prior to you guys getting married? I mean if i bust my *** and go out my way for my husband he BETTER do the same otherwise I just wont do it anymore. Dont do anything for him anymore see if he says something about it. Keep doing stuff for your kids tho they dont need to be between your battle. I would say talk to him but you said he blows you off, i say blow him off if he wants to talk about anything involving his feelings because if he doesnt care anymore then why should you?
Reply:Take yourself to dinner tonight WITHOUT HIM OR THE KIDS!! Call a friend and the 2 of you go celebrate like it was your 21st birthday! And when his birthday comes simply %26quot;forget%26quot; don%26#039;t even mention it! I know your feelings are hurt, and you shouldn%26#039;t play games, but he has to be taught a lesson once and for all!! Teach him how to play by your rules! So go call a friend who can go somewhere on short notice get all dressed and simply say be back and leave the house. Even if you can%26#039;t find someone to go with you leave for a while anyway. Some men just have to be taught to wake up and look at what they have in front of them!!
Reply:Well, Happy Birthday!


I%26#039;ve been married a long time and still my husband cannot remember my birthday. But I also learned it was not the Happy Birthday, flowers...it was an acknowledgement that he still loved me. But then I had to be honest with myself and realized he acknowledged me everyday we are married by working to support our family, coming home to us everyday, kissing me on the cheek, holding my hand....it all comes down to all the little stuff he did and basically giving me a birthday gift everyday of our marriage. FYI we have been married 26 years.
Reply:Stop doing nice things for his b-day.
Reply:First of all... I am sorry to hear that you have a piece of crap for a husband. This is just terrible! I am not kidding. There is NO reason why the man that you married can not even remember your birthday, let alone get you something once you do remind him. My advice would be to go to counseling. Maybe he is doing something he is doing something he is not suppost to be doing (i.e. cheating). If thats not the case then maybe he has alot of stress at his job. But I dont really think that is the issue. Bottom line : There is absolutly NO reason this man should treat you like this. **** Luck.
Reply:So, did you marry him to get birthday presents?
Reply:Maybe he smokes weed and his short term memory is already gone. Who knows?





Try growing up or realize he could care less about a birthday. There are people out there that make no big deal out of birthdays, holidays etc. You knew he was like that normally forgets, why think he would remember in the first place?
Reply:This is not good. Turning 30 was an important day for you, and you let him know. He blew you off. You should take yourself to counseling and map out your plan to find happiness. He is in danger of losing you. Does he know that? Does he care?





Take care of yourself. You cannot fill another%26#039;s cup when yours is empty. You owe yourself a fantastic present, by the way. If asks about it, tell him it%26#039;s from him.
Reply:well It sounds like you are not on his mind like you should be. Well when his day came around all ya what day.
Reply:Hello %26amp; Happy Belated Birthday!!! I%26#039;m alot like you %26amp; I %26#039;m fortunate enough to have my husband remember. However, in your situation, I would go get myself a present %26amp; tell him you understand he%26#039;s not the type that cares about birthdays. Or I would have my children or another part of the family remind him of the upcoming event %26amp; have a party with him there so he%26#039;d be part of the celebration. If he%26#039;s still not into it I%26#039;d have another heart to heart talk with him. At last, if all else fails try to be cold around him not rude %26amp; maybe he%26#039;ll get the message. Good Luck!!!
Reply:that really sucks to hear and im sorry, but ive learned that on my bday i do what i want, and not expect anything else, if people are around...cool if not then im happy with my day.
Reply:well happy late birthday, and im sure its upsetting but you will just have to remind him over and over. dont get too upset its minor. just keep telling him and maybe one day it will stick.
Reply:How about developing a poor memory of your own. Forget to do his washing, cleaning, cooking, ironing etc....Then explain to him that when he remembers that marriage is a loving partnership, your memory might improve lol!...
Reply:You don%26#039;t mention if he%26#039;s otherwise a good husband or not.


I%26#039;m thinking that since you let him know several times that it was important to you and he sees you%26#039;re upset and crying and he just blows you off...and as of today he still has not acknowledged your birthday OR your hurt feelings...he%26#039;s probably a jerk all year round. I get the feeling you%26#039;re used to his insensitivity.....


Call some girlfriends and go out and celebrate with them!


By the way....


HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!!!



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